As you may have guessed, the first official post of my blog is going to focus on bullying. It’s a thing that never seems to go away in life. As a kid you’re bullied and as you grow into an adult you either remain a victim or become a bully yourself. Bullying is just something that doesn’t go away and it’s something that we’ve encountered throughout our entire lives.
There are several theories behind the reasoning for bullying. Bullies harass others because they aren’t happy with themselves. They push other people around to feel better about themselves. Bullies also torment others to gain the respect and adoration of their peers. It is also said that bullies are who they are because of term oil at home. Whatever the reasons for their behavior, the bully gets to kick people around and harass them while the victim is left hurt and humiliated.
Before computers, the victim could just go home and not face any torment in the privacy of their own home. Today, that’s not the case. Now bullies can hop on the computer and post their ugly worlds on any social networking site for everyone to see. Anyone can laugh, join in and further torment the victim. The victim can’t delete it, and even if they could it’s probably floating around on another site. A bully can even use their cell phones to spread the nonsensical hate to others who usually choose to forward the humiliation of their peers instead of deleting it.
The question many parents (and those who have been victimized by bullying) ask is what can be done about it. Honestly, not much. No matter how much we try to teach and preach tolerance, there is going to be hate. Whether it’s race, gender, sexual orientation, or something nonsensical such as the clothes we wear, someone is always going to dislike it. You just can’t please everyone all the time, and a determined bully is going to nitpick at every detail, even if you or your child change “the problem”.
Discouraging the ill-treatment of others and taking a stand only puts a dent into the problem. For every person who stands up to a bully, there’s always more people who are willing to let the bullying happen and not do anything about it. For every person who says that bullying is wrong and no one deserves it, there are people out there who say it “builds character” and is “harmless fun”.
So what can be done to combat bullying? Ignore it. Usually if the bully doesn’t see a reaction, they’ll eventually move to the next person they can torment. Be proud of who and what you are. The more confident and secure you are with yourself, the less likely a bully will target you. Stand up for others being bullied. If the victim knows they’re supported and cared for they can gain the confidence to stand up for themselves and others.
We may not be able to get rid of bullying, but we can help slow it down. Thanks for reading.