Sex isn’t something that only grown folks and teenagers talk about. School age children are talking about it too. That’s right, you heard me. School children. Don’t believe me? I’ll give you an example. I know I shouldn’t, but sometimes I peek at my 10 year old niece’s text messages. A friend of hers wants to have kids by the time she’s 13 and others have been making out and French kissing. Make no mistake, the kids are doing it too and frankly it’s scary.
With kids hitting puberty so early, it may only be a matter of time before you see thirteen year old girls walking around with huge, pregnant bellies and boys with penises that could fall off at any moment. Okay, maybe I’m exaggerating. But I’m not too far off. Although it may be awkward, it’s important to inform the youth about sex and how to practice it safely. Not sure where to start or what to say? This post will help.
Even if you don’t whole heartedly believe or support it, you should promote the ideal of abstinence. Explain to the young men and women in your life that the safest sex is no sex. If they don’t have sex, they won’t catch a sexually transmitted disease and they won’t get pregnant. In addition to the health aspect of it, sex should happen when a man and woman deeply love and care for another. You shouldn’t be having sex just to lose your virginity or to get people to like you. You definitely shouldn’t be having sex in exchange for something. Just remind him or her that there are plenty of ways to show you care for someone without having to sleep with them.
Although you may want to believe that the young men and women in your life aren’t considering have sex, it’s best to prepared. The best way to do this is to tell them how to be prepared to practice safe sex. After all, safe sex is great sex. Teach the young men AND women in your life how to properly use a condom. Teach both sexes about the types of prescription birth control (the pill, the depo shot, nuva ring) and how each one works. Inform them that even if they are using prescription birth control, they should still use a condom. If you don’t believe that the young men and women your life are going to use a condom, inform them about spermicide.
We all know accidents happen. Condoms can break or slip off. Antibiotics and other medications can interfere with the effectiveness of birth control pills. Because of this, you need to inform the young men and women you know about emergency contraception such as Plan B. Tell them that emergency contraception must be taken less than 72 hours after unprotected sex. It will not induce an abortion and it will not protect them against sexually transmitted diseases. In addition, you should inform them that it should not be used regularly.
It may scary and it may awkward, but kids are becoming more advanced at a younger age. If you don’t talk to them about how sex, someone else will. They may give them inaccurate information or information that doesn’t reflect your ideals and values. The best way to protect them is to talk to them.