Sometimes I used to feel like the only crazy person in a perfectly sane world. As of late, I’m beginning to feel like the only sane person in a world gone mad. My case in point, dear readers, is below. Enjoy.
Is it just me, or is everyone and their little sister (literally) getting pregnant? It seems that every time I log onto Facebook or Twitter,someone is announcing they’re pregnant or trying to get pregnant. I’m bombarded with posts on check ups and morning sickness. The soon to be mothers show off their baby bumps and those cute little pictures pregnant women take with their husbands or boyfriends or baby daddies. There are also the ones that have already had a child or two and they constantly post pictures or statuses of their adorable antics around the house or out and about.
It’s cute. Loving. Sweet. But dear Lord, it drives me NUTS!!
I really wouldn’t have a problem with these surges in pregnancy (most people do get pregnant during winter because well…why be cold outside when you can be hot inside?), if it weren’t for my age and the ages of these soon to be mothers. I’m 20; I’ll be 21 in 11 days. Most of these soon to be mothers are UNDER the age of 25! I went to high school with most of these girls. I knew a few in college. And already we’re having babies, getting married, and living behind white picket fences?
Am I missing something?
Sadly, I feel slightly behind the eight ball thanks to Facebook and Twitter announcements. I feel like I should be getting married (or at least in a serious, long-term relationship again). I feel like I should be having babies. I feel like I should be getting ready to live behind a white picket fence. Instead I’m single, working my butt off to get back to school, and hate white picket fences. But alas, I have baby fever. My biological clock is ticking so loud I want to bang the hell out of it with a hammer.
Don’t worry readers. I’m not going to go out and get pregnant. No sex or sperm banks for me. Although I would love to be a mother and think motherhood is a beautiful thing, I know I’m not ready. I can barely support myself now, let alone a baby. When I do decide to have one, I want to able to fully care for him or her. I don’t want to rely on my mom or uncle for money, clothes, food and shelter. I also want to have a kid with my husband or fiance. Someone I know who won’t walk out on me or hurt me. Someone who can help support me and our child, even though I know I’m capable of doing it on my own. I don’t want to be a single mom.
I’m not judging or saying women under 25 are bad mothers. To be honest, I think most of them are amazing. They really love their children and work hard to support them. I’m not saying single moms are unfit mothers either. They too are amazing, and I respect any woman brave enough to have a child and raise him or her on her own.
But aren’t we still…YOUNG? We’re barely adults, practically children raising children. Shouldn’t we be making sure we have college degrees and good paying jobs? Shouldn’t we be making sure our finances are in order? Shouldn’t we wait until we’re in love and in a stable relationship? I’m not saying that this can’t be accomplished while pregnant or having a child at a young age. What I am saying though is aren’t we forcing ourselves to have too much responsibility and grow up too fast?
What do you guys think about this? How young is too young to get pregnant? Do you wish you waited a little longer before having children? Throw your thoughts at me in a comment!