As children we are preached the message to never judge a book by its cover. However, that’s what we are taught to do most of our lives. We are taught to look “nice” to make a good impression, and we judge each other based off race, height, weight, hair, shoes, makeup and clothes. Although it’s human nature to judge others by appearance, in most cases it’s a bum deal SPECIFICALLY when it comes to clothes.
The other day a friend posted a status with the quote presented in the picture on the right. As you can see it says “my fellow women of the world: Put on some clothes. You want a man to give you the time of day, leave a little up to the imagination, and respect yourself. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the beholder is anyone you want it to be.” I don’t know where this quote originated from, but my search brought me to this other photo suggesting that if my skirt is too short I’m “asking for it” and if it’s too long I’m “prudish.”
Huh? Either way am I missing something?
Let’s take one thing at a time though. We’ll address the quote first. It’s a quote based on assumption. The very first thing it’s assuming is that women who dress in a way that is perceived as provocative a.k.a not wearing any clothes don’t respect themselves. Wearing provocative clothes doesn’t signify a lack of self-respect. It can represent a sign of self confidence. It can be a sign that the woman is comfortable with her body and wants to show it off or is just comfortable in those clothes. Basically we’re assuming she’s a self hating slut and we probably haven’t held a conversation with her to find out otherwise.
Secondly, it’s assuming is that women who dress in a way that is perceived as provocative are doing it for male attention. Again, these women could just feel comfortable and confident in what their wearing. It may come as a shock and surprise to some, but women don’t just select their outfits for the day to impress men or other people. Sometimes we wear clothes we feel comfortable in or that match our mood. Sorry boys.
The quote isn’t even taking account body type. If you’re well endowed obviously tank tops, v necks, and even t-shirts can seem provocative or inappropriate. The same goes for people with big thighs, butts or hips. Shorts, jeans, and skirts are made much more “risqué” sometimes due to the shape of our bodies.
As the speaker says, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What may be considered provocative to one person, may not be to another. Some cultures deem that a woman showing anything but her eyes is provocative. If anyone can be the beholder, can’t women? If they feel beautiful and confident who are you to tell them to put some clothes on?
Now we come to this image on the left by artist Rosea Posey discussing the proper length of a skirt. On the page the photo originated the artist says that this photo made her reexamine how own thoughts and opinions on “slutty” women and those who chose to cover up. Unfortunately, some people are taking this image literally to help promote “modesty” which is really quite unfortunate.
Just like the quote, the people who are taking this image literally are suggesting that women who wear provocative clothing are asking to be objectified and have to suffer the consequences of that objectification. The truth is, it doesn’t matter what a woman is wearing. If a man wants to objectify or simplify her to tits and ass, then he will do just that. If a man wants to rape a woman, he will. It doesn’t really matter what she’s wearing and the sooner people realize this the better.
Again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If I feel beautiful wearing a corset top and a pair of jeans, then that’s what I’m going to wear. If I think a dress that reaches my ankles looks great then that’s what I’m going to wear. If I feel like wearing yoga pants and a hoodie to the store I will. If I’m comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt then that’s exactly what I’m going to wear. The same goes for all women. And if you don’t like it, don’t look at us. Either way, it’s none of your business.
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