Relationships-be they platonic, romantic, work or family related-can be confusing. Sometimes we may want more out of the relationship, while the other person may want less. We may overstep our bounds or suffer from misunderstandings. Good relationships can turn bad, while bad relationships can turn out to be good. To help cut back on some of the confusion, here are some basic things people should understand about ALL types of relationships.
1. Know the nature of your relationship. Different relationships mean different things to different people. Not every friend is a coworker, and not every coworker is your friend. Not everyone is friends with their mom and dad. You’ll get to know exactly where you stand through interaction. For example, if your coworker never talks to you about personal stuff or avoids interaction with you out of the office, then you guys are just coworkers and not friends.
2. Communication is key. If you’re unsure about where you stand or if you feel disrespected or hurt, you should address it. No one can clear things up or fix their mistakes if they are unaware of your feelings.
With that being said, you have to do it POLITELY! You can’t approach someone cussing, screaming, and throwing accusations at someone like your on episode of Real Housewives of Wherever. Do it calmly and respectfully to get the best results.
3. You both have the right to say NO. You and whoever you’re in a relationship with-be it platonic, romantic, or otherwise-have the right to say no to any and all requests. If a friend wants to go on a date with you and you don’t like them like that, you have the right to say no. If you want to have sex with a friend but they don’t like you that way, they have the right to say no. If your cousin wants to borrow a car but you need it, you have the right to say no. If you want to borrow a thousand dollars from your brother, he has the right to say no.
4. Compromise. Although you have the right to say no, sometimes it’s easier to compromise. For example, your boyfriend wants to take you to the movies but you don’t want to see the movie he wants. You can either find a movie you both like, or agree to see his movie and have him take you to your favorite restaurant. Everyone wins!
5. All relationships are built on mutual trust and respect. If there’s no trust or respect for each other, than what’s the point?