As I was stumbling across the internet, I came across this article by Samantha Brick. For those of you who have no idea who she is, this woman is a columnist for the UK’s Daily Mail. Last year (around the same time) she wrote an article about how other women hate her because she’s so beautiful. Now she’s back with a new piece that has women everywhere up in arms.
The piece starts with Brick telling a story about how her friends brought her and her husband a box of chocolates because they were guests at dinner. Instead of graciously accepted the chocolates, she rewarded her friend with “ice-cold contempt.” Anyway, the chocolates ended up in the trash because for the last 30 years, Brick has been on a permanent diet. Why? Because “any self-respecting woman wants to be thin, and to be thin you need to spend your life on a diet.”
It gets WORSE. Brick makes the claim that being overweight is never attractive and that “any woman with a modicum of self-respect should watch her figure with the same vigour.” She claims that men (and also women) equate being thin to being beautiful. Men prefer to be with women who are thinner. Male bosses will always give better positions to women are thin, fit and in control over a woman who
“looks like a bulging sack in danger of imminent cardiac arrest”.
Brick also says she’s only dated men who were willing to keep an eye on her figure and her husband is always telling her that if she gains weight he’ll divorce her. Apparently these are great motivators for her to stay thin. In addition to dating men who have been willing to dump her if she got too “big”, Brick talks about how she won’t go on vacation to certain places because of the food available to her there.
Of course, Brick shares some the diets she’s been on throughout the years so we too can be thin and beautiful.
Where to start? Well, let’s take out men and social norms and start at the root of the problem here.
What Samantha Brick and many other women out there don’t realize is that NOT EVERY WOMAN IS MEANT TO BE A SIZE 0. Not every woman is going to be ABLE to be a size 0. EVERYONE’S BODY TYPE IS DIFFERENT! People are like snowflakes. Just because there are similarities such as height doesn’t mean that every woman is going to be happy and healthy with her appearance at the same weight. Personal preference and health should come first and foremost when it comes to weight.
Brick also has the audacity to claim that women who are not dieting, people who are bigger and happy with their weight, don’t have any respect for themselves. Again, being happy and healthy trump being miserable trying to reach unhealthy or unrealistic weight loss goals.
Now let’s add men back into the equation. Brick claims that men prefer slimmer women. Where’s the current scientific data to support that claim? Was it published in a medical or psychological journal? Was a study done it recently? Because to me it seems “bigger” women are dating, marrying, and hooking with men (and women) just as much as skinny women are.
Brick also tells us that her lovers and her husband have acted as weight loss coaches for her. Her current husband will leave her if she gains too much weight. That sounds…soul crushingly awful. Whatever happened to mutual love, support and respect? That sends a message that it doesn’t matter what kind of personality you have or what your interests are. As long as you’re thin, men will love you and if you don’t stay thin, they won’t.
As for the getting promotions at work from your male boss, there’s a little more to take into account. There are VERY few industries that just have women working in the office or place of business. There are also men in the office and men tend to be in positions of power more than women. So you have to be more than “thin and beautiful”. You have to be good at what you do and work hard. Otherwise you’re just another pretty face and those usually don’t last forever.
Finally, social norms. Yes, thin is in. However, like all trends it may fade away. More and more women (and men) are realizing that being thin does not always equal being healthy. Being thin doesn’t always equal being happy. Although physical appearance is important in today’s world, anyone can be attractive big or small. It all just boils down to personal preference. As soon as we stop shoving personal preferences down each other’s throat and be accepting the world will be a much better place.