The Battle of the Sexes seems to be never ending. It’s something that has been doing on for decades and even as children we become aware of it and participate it. (Don’t tell me you’ve never heard the phrase girls go to college to get more knowledge; boys go to Jupiter to get more stupider.) The question is, should it be that way? Should we continue to shake fists at each other and tread over the same topics over and over and over? Here are 5 common things that men and women fight about, but shouldn’t.
Lots of men dismiss rape and sexual assault because it’s a “women’s issue.” However, it’s so much more than that.
According to the Rape Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN), 1 out of 6 women in the U.S. has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. Everywhere we turn, women are bombarded with “tips” and “suggestions” about how to avoid sexual assault and rape. We are taught to be distrusting and weary of men because they are the ones primarily portrayed as the culprits of rape and sexual assault.
This causes some men to get angry and claim it’s unfair. Why should a few men spoil the reputation of all? The only way to change is if MEN become more active in taking a stand against rape and sexual assault. If you see a guy force feeding a girl drinks, put a stop to it. If you see a guy trying to force himself on a girl, speak up. Prove that you’re not just another asshole.
Men are also the victims of rape and sexual assault. 1 in 33 men are assaulted in the U.S. They need support and understanding just as much as females victim do. The only way to stop it is for men and women to band together and let rapists know we’re not going to stand for their nonsense.
Reproductive Rights/Birth Control
This is a touchy subject for men and women. No matter what side of the debate you land on, one thing is for sure. No one should be able to control what another person does with their body. What might be okay for you and your body, might not be okay for mine. Either way, we should respect the choices other people make about their reproductive organs whether we agree with them or not.
Curvy vs. Skinny
Although you mostly hear this debate among women, men like to talk about this among themselves (and around women) too. Either way, it’s a conversation we shouldn’t be having.
Some people are attracted to skinny guys/girls. Others are attracted to people who are a little squishy. Who cares? If I don’t like the way someone looks I don’t have to date, marry or fuck them. I don’t have the right to judge them for being that way and I don’t have the right to look down on someone just because they don’t have the same tastes I do. As long as the person is happy and healthy does their size really matter?
Slut vs. Player
Oh, the double standard of sexuality. If a girl sleeps with a lot of guys she gets labeled a slut. If a guy sleeps with lots of girls, he’s a rock star, someone to high-five and look up to. WRONG. If one is considered wrong, they both should be. As long as the sex is safe and consensual, it’s no one’s business.
Guys aren’t the only ones that get caught in “the friendzone.” It happens to girls all the time! There are ways to get out of it/avoid it for both genders. The most important to one is to MAKE YOUR ATTRACTION KNOWN!!!!! Flirt! Ask them out! Let them know that you want to be more than a friend as soon as possible so there’s no bullshit or confusion. If you don’t, you shouldn’t be mad when they wind up dating someone else. Which leads to the next point…
Nice Guys Finish Last
I’ve talked about this a few years back, but the bottom line is there’s usually more to “the nice guys finish last” spiel. And let’s face it guys, nice girls finish last a lot too. And just like you, there’s usually more to it than that.
Which Gender is Worse
Men do shitty things. Women do shitty things. At the end of the day we can all be pretty shitty. Instead of focusing on the gender the asshole is, we should be focusing on their shitty behavior. We should be focusing on being better people.
What are some things that you think men and women should stop fighting about? Let me know in the comments below!