No. It’s a simple two letter word, but lots of people have trouble saying it. Even if a request is stupid, baseless, or puts a hardship on them, a lot of people buckle and give into the demands of others. While there’s nothing wrong with being a nice person, it isn’t nice for others to take advantage of that. Saying no and meaning it can solve this problem and all the trouble that comes with it.
Why people are afraid to say no
A lot people don’t say no to avoid confrontation. In this age of entitlement, a lot of people get pissed off when you don’t do what they’ve asked. The best way to avoid any arguments, questions, guilt trips, and awkwardness is to just suck it up and say yes. Another reason people avoid saying no is because they want to please others. They want people to like them and think they are eager, friendly and nice.
However, saying yes all the time can do more harm than good. It opens the door for relationships to become one sided. The more agreeable someone is, the more likely others will ask them for favors or only talk to them in times of emotional or financial distress. It can also cause you to become exhausted, overworked and stressed out.
The benefits of saying no
Saying no isn’t as taboo as society makes it out to be. As a matter of fact, it has its advantages. Saying no makes it clear that you value your own needs, goals, and time. It also shows that you are not a pushover. When you do say yes, people will appreciate it more.
The art of saying no
The key to saying no is not to be an asshole about it. Being rude to friends, family and coworkers will only lead to anger and hurt feelings. When you deny a request, be polite and gracious yet firm and assertive. Stick with your decision no matter how much begging and pleading the other person does. If you unable or unwilling to do something, don’t.
If you need time to think about a request, take it. Weigh the pros and cons carefully. Taking the time to consider a request before responding may increase the person’s acceptance of your rejection.
Although it sucks to say no sometimes, don’t feel guilty about it. It’s okay to put your wants and needs first. If honoring a request is going to do you more harm than good, you shouldn’t do it. If it makes you uncomfortable, don’t do it. You have the right to say no.
Saying no can be hard, but it’s a necessary part of life. No one should feel guilty for not doing things that make them uncomfortable or causes turmoil in their life. It’s nice to be nice, but you shouldn’t be a doormat.