At some point in your life or career you will face rejection. It doesn’t matter how awesome or skilled you are. Sooner or later someone’s going to come along and tell you that you didn’t make the cut. And that’s okay! Because rejection is a part of life and a learning experience. It may suck, but you shouldn’t let it define who or what you are.The best way to handle it is to accept it and move on. Here are some tips to help get you through your rejection.
Let yourself be sad: It’s understandable and acceptable to be upset after being rejected. Although some people may advise you to snap out of it right away, you don’t have to if you don’t want to. Heal at your own rate.
Don’t dwell on it: Although being rejected sucks, don’t hang onto the anger, pain and sadness for too long. Staying there will stifle your growth.
Be honest with yourself: Whether you’re rejected by a crush, a literary magazine, or for a job, there’s probably a rational explanation for it. Don’t be critical of yourself. Instead, be honest. Perhaps you came on too strong or you just weren’t the right fit. Perhaps it was your style or your tone. Knowing where you may have went wrong will help you prevent being rejected in the future.
Don’t take it personally: One of the most important things about handling rejection is to not take it personally. Not everyone’s going to like you or your work. It’s not an attack on who or what you are as a person. Remember, they are rejecting a request or situation, not you.
Step away if you need to: Whether it’s dating, writing or busting your ass to get a promotion, it’s okay to step away from the situation for a while. Take a day or two to relax. Do other things you enjoy. Spend time with family or friends. Do whatever puts you in a good and positive place.
Don’t be afraid to try again: Humans are hardwired to fear rejection. But don’t let that fear hold you back. You’ll never get where you want to be if you don’t try.
Keep trying: With that being said, get back out there and try! Flirt with that hot guy or girl. Keep querying agents and publishers. Keep doing your best at work. Someone is bound to notice how awesome your efforts are and accept you.
Brace yourself for the future: Rejection sucks, but it’s nothing you haven’t dealt with before. It’s not the first time and it won’t be the last. Although it’s good to be optimistic, remember that rejection can come at any time. The sooner you accept it and brace yourself for it, the better you’ll be able to handle it in the future.