Spending time with your family can be an important and fun part of the holiday season. However, being around some relatives can suck. There’s always at least one that knows how to make you feel like shit and ruin everyone’s good time. If you have one (or several) of these assholes you have to deal with this holiday season, here are some ways you get through it.
Kill them with kindness: Most likely this relative just wants to get a reaction out of you. Don’t give them the satisfaction. Don’t let them have that power over you. Just be polite and kind it will piss them off.
Counter with a snarky comment: Although it’s best to be kind and courteous as to not burn any bridges or cause a shit storm during the holiday, you don’t have to take anyone’s shit. If someone is being a jerk to you, feel free to hit them with a zinger or two. The right amount of snark and tact will be enough to disarm the bitchiest of relatives.
Smile: Smiling has the same effect as killing people with kindness. It confuses them and takes away their power.
Leave: Some people aren’t built for confrontation. If you feel threatened or like you’re going to have an outburst, leave. You don’t have to stay somewhere you don’t feel welcome.
Hang out with other relatives that make you feel good: Focus on relatives that make you feel loved and happy. You’ll have a better than time.
Bring a friend: Having a friend around can help defuse any tensions between you and hostile relatives and gives you an excuse not to hang around them. No one’s going to get pissy if you’re busy entertaining a friend.
Put in minimal time: Be polite, say hello for a minute, and walk away. No harm, no foul.
Change the subject: You have the right to privacy. If you don’t want to talk about something, you don’t have to. Change the subject to something you would rather talk about, or make the topic about the hostile relative.
What do you do when you have to deal with rude relatives? Let me know in the comments!